S1E3: “Do Not Suffer!” w. Mel Manning & Brooke Pribyl
Nebraska Extension Early Childhood Program Area- Emily Manning, Dr. Holly Hatton, Erin Kampbell, Ingrid Lindal, Linda Reddish, Katie Krause, and LaDonna Werth
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08/28/2023
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A visit with two rural Nebraska moms to discuss their experiences with social media in various stages of motherhood highlights the value and pitfalls of social media. They shared how and when they engage with social media and how their use of the platforms changed when they became mothers. Both women felt a sense of connection when reading posts of other moms’ experiences like their own while noting that avoiding comparison to the polished posts often seen on social media is important for wellbeing. The following music was used for this media project:
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- [00:00:00.242](upbeat music)
- [00:00:09.780]This is "The Good Life in Early Life"
- [00:00:12.000]a production by Nebraska Extension.
- [00:00:14.070]I'm your host, Emily Manning
- [00:00:15.720]an early childhood extension educator in Seward County.
- [00:00:19.020]For this episode, I traveled to a small town,
- [00:00:22.110]Burress, Nebraska,
- [00:00:23.310]to speak to two mothers about their lived experiences
- [00:00:25.408]with social media and their transition to motherhood.
- [00:00:28.380]It's a follow up to my interview with Dr. Kirkpatrick
- [00:00:30.840]about the similar topic.
- [00:00:32.400]I'm so excited to talk to our two panelists today,
- [00:00:34.590]because not only will they have great insights for us,
- [00:00:36.697]but they also happen to be my cousins.
- [00:00:38.460]Our first panelist is currently
- [00:00:40.170]a middle school science teacher in York.
- [00:00:42.240]She's also girl bossing it up,
- [00:00:43.680]as she has started her own interior design business,
- [00:00:46.380]Heartland Reveal.
- [00:00:47.460]In addition to her career responsibilities,
- [00:00:49.470]she's also the mother to an adorable girl
- [00:00:51.660]who just turned one recently.
- [00:00:53.370]You might hear her in the background of our audio
- [00:00:55.950]because that little girl happens to be with us today.
- [00:00:58.320]But I think that adds a little touch of realism
- [00:01:00.240]since we're talking about new moms.
- [00:01:01.950]But welcome to the show, Mel Manning.
- [00:01:04.598]Hello everybody, happy to be here.
- [00:01:07.080]We are so excited to have you, Mel.
- [00:01:08.820]Our next panelist is a grain merchandiser
- [00:01:11.400]at the Manning Grain Company,
- [00:01:12.870]which is a multi-generational,
- [00:01:14.400]family owned and operated,
- [00:01:15.780]grain elevator business.
- [00:01:17.520]Even though her official title is grain merchandiser,
- [00:01:20.220]as many of you who work in a family business,
- [00:01:22.320]or small business know, she wears many hats.
- [00:01:24.840]She's also the mother to two lovely girls.
- [00:01:27.330]The oldest is four and her youngest will be two soon.
- [00:01:30.300]Welcome to the show, Brooke Pribyl.
- [00:01:32.310]Hi, excited to be here.
- [00:01:34.140]Thanks for being here.
- [00:01:35.670]We're gonna start off with a fun question
- [00:01:37.290]that I like to ask all my people who are on the podcast.
- [00:01:40.800]What is a funny story about you as a child
- [00:01:43.470]or what is your favorite childhood memory?
- [00:01:47.850]Well, being in agriculture,
- [00:01:51.750]when I was little
- [00:01:52.583]we used to have a corn pile in our backyard every harvest.
- [00:01:56.490]And one time a friend and I thought it would be a good idea
- [00:02:00.600]if we had my younger brother put a car on top of the roof
- [00:02:03.840]and drive it off into the corn.
- [00:02:06.510]So was it a real car, like a-
- [00:02:08.510](laughing) It was just like one of those little,
- [00:02:10.560]where you pedal with your feet, I guess.
- [00:02:12.570]Yeah.
- [00:02:13.403]So anyways, he survived the fall
- [00:02:15.180]but it made for a pretty funny video
- [00:02:17.100]and a good story I guess.
- [00:02:21.617]My funny story is also about a younger sibling
- [00:02:26.790]and doing something that was probably kind of dangerous.
- [00:02:31.470]I was pretending to cut her hair.
- [00:02:35.367]Oh. Using my fingers
- [00:02:37.440]and "I'm not gonna cut your hair,
- [00:02:38.670]I'm not gonna cut your hair."
- [00:02:40.440]Well, then I grabbed a real pair of scissors
- [00:02:42.270]and I said, "I'm just gonna pretend."
- [00:02:44.010]And I gave her a complete like mullet looking haircut
- [00:02:48.990]like the worst haircut ever.
- [00:02:51.000]And then the joke was on me
- [00:02:52.950]because my mom liked the haircut once we fixed it.
- [00:02:56.970]So then we had matching horrible haircuts.
- [00:03:00.030]Oh my goodness.
- [00:03:01.339]That's hilarious.
- [00:03:02.537]I need to see a picture, like immediately of these haircuts.
- [00:03:06.510]That's hilarious.
- [00:03:07.800]I also had a haircut story from when I was four.
- [00:03:11.790]I really loved Mulan, the movie Mulan.
- [00:03:15.840]And in the movie she cuts off her hair to become a soldier.
- [00:03:18.780]So I wanted to be just like her.
- [00:03:20.400]And I took a pair of like kid scissors and just went to town
- [00:03:24.300]on everything that I could see.
- [00:03:26.550]So my bangs were like off the top of my forehead
- [00:03:29.520]and then I had a mullet in the back.
- [00:03:31.080]It was pretty great.
- [00:03:32.670]It was really good.
- [00:03:33.780]That's funny. Yeah.
- [00:03:34.613]We need to share pictures.
- [00:03:35.446]Yeah, we should do that sometimes,
- [00:03:37.230]swap pictures sometime, that'd be fun.
- [00:03:40.800]So since this is about social media
- [00:03:44.401]and really focusing on social media and moms,
- [00:03:47.670]what forms of social media do you have?
- [00:03:52.830]I have Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat.
- [00:04:00.803](laughing) I also have Facebook,
- [00:04:06.000]Instagram, Snapchat and Twitter.
- [00:04:09.840]I guess if- Yeah.
- [00:04:11.220]Yeah.
- [00:04:13.110]Which one do you use the most often?
- [00:04:14.610]What's your favorite one?
- [00:04:16.290]For me, most likely Instagram and Snapchat.
- [00:04:23.910]Yeah, I use Snapchat.
- [00:04:26.070]I guess mostly sending pictures of my kids
- [00:04:28.290]to our families.
- [00:04:31.020]I get on Facebook
- [00:04:32.280]but I don't really post that often.
- [00:04:34.800]How did your use of social media change
- [00:04:37.680]when you became a mom,
- [00:04:39.570]if it did?
- [00:04:42.210]Instead of social media being about me and my friends
- [00:04:45.210]and what we were doing, it turned into, I guess just my kids
- [00:04:49.620]and I would say I don't post as much anymore.
- [00:04:53.490]And yeah it's just more private.
- [00:04:57.960]Yeah, I'd agree.
- [00:04:58.890]Like what I was posting changed, it's more, you know
- [00:05:04.560]all about my daughter, obviously.
- [00:05:08.370]But then also,
- [00:05:12.780]not as much time to just like
- [00:05:16.467]aimlessly scroll through.
- [00:05:19.170]I would say like I don't have as much time to
- [00:05:21.840]just do that either, so.
- [00:05:24.340]Yeah. Yeah.
- [00:05:25.440]Brooke, how about you with the scrolling?
- [00:05:27.030]Did you do a lot of that before you became a mom?
- [00:05:30.510]Yeah, I would say so.
- [00:05:32.010]I think, and then it turned into late nights
- [00:05:34.890]up with the kids.
- [00:05:35.723]I'd be on my phone
- [00:05:37.350]while I'm trying to get them back to sleep
- [00:05:38.940]or something. Mm hm.
- [00:05:40.470]So now it's kind of just when I have a break
- [00:05:42.450]during nap time, I can get on.
- [00:05:44.130]Otherwise I don't really use it.
- [00:05:46.830]Yeah, makes sense.
- [00:05:49.200]Did other moms or social media influencers
- [00:05:53.460]influence the way that you use social media
- [00:05:57.000]and the way that you posted?
- [00:06:02.220]So like did you see posts and you're like,
- [00:06:05.730]oh, that's really cute, I wanna do that?
- [00:06:07.770]Or something of the like?
- [00:06:16.710]Not really.
- [00:06:18.510]I guess, I kind of just post like big events.
- [00:06:22.830]Nothing really glamorous day to day 'cause it's not
- [00:06:25.770]really glamorous.
- [00:06:26.610]So yeah, it's kind of fun I guess to see people's
- [00:06:32.850]professional pictures they have done like of their family.
- [00:06:35.280]That's always kind of fun and sometimes makes you
- [00:06:38.160]wanna get photos done even if you don't need 'em.
- [00:06:40.380]But that's about it. Yeah.
- [00:06:43.710]Yeah, I think, before our daughter was born
- [00:06:50.460]there was some more pressure to
- [00:06:52.164]like, what's our announcement gonna be?
- [00:06:56.970]And what are we gonna do for like a gender reveal?
- [00:06:59.790]You know, so there's a lot of that stuff out there.
- [00:07:04.369]You had a really fun gender reveal too.
- [00:07:06.690]Do you wanna share that?
- [00:07:07.806]It was unique.
- [00:07:09.457]So- Yeah, I give all the credit
- [00:07:11.220]to my husband.
- [00:07:12.510]He's pretty proud of it.
- [00:07:14.760]He was the one that was like, oh, we're not gonna do
- [00:07:16.860]anything like too crazy.
- [00:07:18.150]But we have a train at Burress, a train engine.
- [00:07:21.870]And we put the color of the baby's gender in the smoke stack
- [00:07:28.410]on the train.
- [00:07:29.730]And so when we blew the train horn
- [00:07:34.590]it would show the gender to our family and friends.
- [00:07:38.910]So, it was pretty cool. That's fun.
- [00:07:39.743]Yeah. That was really unique.
- [00:07:41.400]Unique to where you're at too
- [00:07:42.780]and what you guys do for a living too.
- [00:07:45.156]Yeah. So yeah, sorry
- [00:07:46.590]I think I sidetracked you from what you were talking about.
- [00:07:49.020]You were saying that
- [00:07:49.950]before you had kids you were kind of like caught up
- [00:07:51.980]in what will our announcement be?
- [00:07:53.880]Planning the gender reveal posts, and what changed?
- [00:07:59.070]Yeah, I think once she was here
- [00:08:03.090]you don't have as much the time to like pay attention
- [00:08:06.570]to what every influencer is doing.
- [00:08:10.830]But like Brooke said, you know
- [00:08:12.600]it's fun to see people's family photos and things like that.
- [00:08:17.820]So yeah, that's kind of how it changed, for me anyway.
- [00:08:22.560]Brooke, you are kind of an experienced mom now.
- [00:08:26.100]You're on your second child.
- [00:08:28.680]So how has your social media usage changed over time
- [00:08:33.630]from your first to your second kiddo, if at all?
- [00:08:37.110]Yeah, I probably posted more with the first,
- [00:08:41.220]just 'cause I didn't have as much going on.
- [00:08:43.260]And then the second one comes and it's...
- [00:08:46.860]I guess you're so much more busy
- [00:08:48.600]and it's less exciting to post everything,
- [00:08:51.900]you know, that's happening.
- [00:08:53.010]So life kind of just gets away from you.
- [00:08:55.950]Yeah, so it sounds like you're just caught up
- [00:08:57.750]in the demands of life and being a mom,
- [00:09:00.000]that it's harder to post as often.
- [00:09:01.920]Yeah. Do you feel pressured
- [00:09:03.360]to post as much as you did with your first?
- [00:09:06.143]Or you're kind of like, it is what it is,
- [00:09:08.310]I'm doing what I can do? Yeah.
- [00:09:10.500]I don't really feel pressure.
- [00:09:11.610]I kind of just don't really care that much about it,
- [00:09:14.430]I guess.
- [00:09:15.263]So, just more concerned with keeping my kids going
- [00:09:18.300]and- Yeah, the main thing, right?
- [00:09:19.732]Like making sure everybody survives to the next day.
- [00:09:22.456]There's always a struggle somewhere.
- [00:09:24.919]Yeah. (all laughing)
- [00:09:27.270]Yeah, thanks for sharing that.
- [00:09:30.480]Social media is a platform that enables comparison
- [00:09:33.720]to others really easily.
- [00:09:35.250]This can have a negative impact on our mental health
- [00:09:37.800]and our wellbeing, especially if we view ourselves
- [00:09:40.410]as lacking or not measuring up to others in our comparisons.
- [00:09:45.180]What's your experience with this
- [00:09:47.053]particularly when you transition into your role as a mom?
- [00:09:51.240]Yeah, I think it definitely adds pressure
- [00:09:53.850]to like be the perfect mom,
- [00:09:55.560]based on what you see on social media.
- [00:09:57.227]'Cause a lot of times you don't see all the nitty gritty,
- [00:10:00.930]it's just like the good times.
- [00:10:02.490]So, I don't know, it can make you feel
- [00:10:04.140]like you need to take your kids
- [00:10:05.730]on the best vacations or do all the fun activities
- [00:10:10.170]and sometimes that's just not realistic.
- [00:10:12.510]And you just gotta do the best you can do, I guess.
- [00:10:17.370]How did you deal with that?
- [00:10:19.380]Like how did- I just like try to
- [00:10:21.990]not let it bother me
- [00:10:23.100]and just do what's best for my kids.
- [00:10:26.580]And try to do all the fun things that we can do
- [00:10:29.430]and not worry about like the stuff that we can't, I guess.
- [00:10:33.000]Right, yeah.
- [00:10:36.180]Mel, did you wanna talk about your experience with that?
- [00:10:38.760]Yeah, I would say it was the most challenging,
- [00:10:44.040]or most negative those first few weeks of being a mom.
- [00:10:48.990]'Cause it is such a big adjustment and you kind of,
- [00:10:56.370]at least for me, like I had wanted to be a mom
- [00:10:59.100]my entire life.
- [00:11:00.090]And so then it happens and you're like,
- [00:11:02.490]it's not all sunshine and rainbows.
- [00:11:04.695](laughing) And so when you see
- [00:11:06.660]just the sunshine and rainbows
- [00:11:08.190]you know, on social media, like Brooke said,
- [00:11:10.350]it can make you feel like you're not doing something right.
- [00:11:14.130]Or you know, those types of things.
- [00:11:20.304]So yeah, that was kind of hard to adjust to.
- [00:11:22.830]But I think the main thing was just realizing
- [00:11:27.060]that social media isn't always real life
- [00:11:31.860]and leaning on my friends that are moms
- [00:11:35.100]and things like that helps you get through.
- [00:11:38.220]You talked about like scrolling,
- [00:11:40.470]I think one of you did, about scrolling, like late night
- [00:11:42.990]when you're trying to get the kids back to bed,
- [00:11:45.150]how does that impact you in those late nights,
- [00:11:49.020]when you're probably a little bit more vulnerable
- [00:11:51.030]and like sleep deprived?
- [00:11:52.170]Do you think it impacts you more or less?
- [00:11:56.220]I guess, I don't know if it really,
- [00:11:58.650]I think I was just, late nights I'm just tired
- [00:12:01.560]and just kind of looking at my phone
- [00:12:03.510]to be like distracting myself
- [00:12:04.950]from that I'm really awake and tired.
- [00:12:08.259](all laughing)
- [00:12:09.092]Just like,
- [00:12:09.925]why am I awake right now? Yeah.
- [00:12:10.758]I don't wanna be awake.
- [00:12:11.591]So trying to distract yourself from that fact.
- [00:12:13.980]Yeah, so I dunno that it really bothers me anymore.
- [00:12:16.350]It's just kind of something to pass the time.
- [00:12:18.570]Yeah. Yeah.
- [00:12:19.950]I think now it's kind of just more just that time filler
- [00:12:24.390]and it's not as emotionally like charged.
- [00:12:29.940]Just because, definitely don't have it all figured out,
- [00:12:33.750]but like, I've adjusted a little bit more now
- [00:12:39.090]to being a mom.
- [00:12:40.350]So it's not as-
- [00:12:42.960]It's not as new- Right.
- [00:12:43.830]Not as hard.
- [00:12:44.852]Yes, yes. Yeah.
- [00:12:46.060]Yep, that makes sense.
- [00:12:47.537](baby crying in background)
- [00:12:48.630]Has social media ever been helpful to you
- [00:12:50.454]or kind of supportive to you in your role as a mom?
- [00:12:53.880]Without stating a specific person, brand,
- [00:12:56.130]or social media influencer,
- [00:12:57.750]can you describe what types of posts these were?
- [00:13:01.770]Yeah, I think there's times a mom would post
- [00:13:05.280]about best ways to keep your toddler in bed
- [00:13:08.130]when you switch 'em, you know
- [00:13:09.300]to a bed versus a crib.
- [00:13:11.070]So that was interesting to read
- [00:13:13.830]like the different mom's comments
- [00:13:15.270]and tips on what worked for them.
- [00:13:17.460]And some of 'em I tried and you know,
- [00:13:20.520]would work some nights and not others.
- [00:13:22.140]But if your kid is sick,
- [00:13:25.350]sometimes moms will post about, you know,
- [00:13:27.960]when to take 'em in, you know,
- [00:13:29.970]because you really have no idea.
- [00:13:31.800]Sometimes it's scary trying to figure everything out.
- [00:13:34.590]And you Google something and it gives you like
- [00:13:36.600]the worst outcome possible.
- [00:13:38.220]So that's always scary.
- [00:13:40.620]And sometimes it's just nice to hear real moms experiences.
- [00:13:43.980]So there was a post specifically about that,
- [00:13:46.470]like a mom saying like, this is when you take your kid in?
- [00:13:50.730]Oh, I wouldn't, I don't know if I'd say that.
- [00:13:55.020]Have you ever asked for help like on that like-
- [00:13:57.177]No, I am not one that like posts, but sometimes I like,
- [00:14:00.420]I secretly like to read, you know
- [00:14:01.800]when moms post about stuff. Yeah.
- [00:14:02.897]'Cause it's like, hey, this is good information.
- [00:14:05.970]But I don't know if there's really a specific time, I guess.
- [00:14:09.660]Yeah.
- [00:14:11.430]You had mentioned that you read a post
- [00:14:13.380]about a mom wanting advice,
- [00:14:16.170]I think from switching from a crib to a bed with a toddler.
- [00:14:20.820]Yes. Would you talk
- [00:14:21.653]more about that?
- [00:14:23.815]Yeah, some parents, you know
- [00:14:27.690]said they would just keep taking 'em back.
- [00:14:29.970]You know, give 'em so much time in there.
- [00:14:32.340]Some people would use a nightlight
- [00:14:34.560]that when it's a certain color
- [00:14:35.820]like it means they have to stay in their room.
- [00:14:37.530]But my kid's a little more strong-willed,
- [00:14:39.840]so it takes a little bit more
- [00:14:41.760]than a colored nightlight. She is.
- [00:14:42.863]She's a pistol. Yeah.
- [00:14:44.580]Yeah. So we did, we actually
- [00:14:46.410]turned the door handle around like,
- [00:14:48.090]so we could lock it from the outside,
- [00:14:49.500]and then, we'd stand there- Oh.
- [00:14:51.270]You know, while she screamed for five minutes.
- [00:14:53.310]And that didn't work either
- [00:14:55.170]because it just made her more angry.
- [00:14:57.030]Uh huh.
- [00:14:58.008]So yeah, some nights she would end up in bed with us
- [00:15:01.890]and other nights our tactics would work.
- [00:15:05.070]So it just kind of depends.
- [00:15:07.200]Mm hm. And let them figure it out
- [00:15:08.430]on their own sometimes.
- [00:15:10.200]It sounds like it was really validating
- [00:15:12.600]reading about other people's experiences
- [00:15:15.000]and knowing that you weren't alone.
- [00:15:17.160]Yeah. And trying to like
- [00:15:18.060]figure it out.
- [00:15:18.893]Like there's not one right answer
- [00:15:20.387]is kind of what it sounds like from your response.
- [00:15:23.340]Yeah, definitely.
- [00:15:24.300]Because some parents would comment, you know, this worked.
- [00:15:27.030]And then other ones would be like,
- [00:15:28.057]"No, that didn't work for me."
- [00:15:30.505]So, at least makes you feel better
- [00:15:32.100]that you're not the only one.
- [00:15:33.210]Yeah, definitely, I'm sure.
- [00:15:35.340]Yeah, so like Brooke said, as a first time mom
- [00:15:39.780]you are googling everything
- [00:15:42.360]and it's nice to have resources to go to.
- [00:15:46.710]But then with social media it's kind of nice
- [00:15:49.830]to have real people to look to,
- [00:15:55.295]for what they're going through.
- [00:15:57.630]There's certain, you know, certain apps
- [00:16:00.090]that you can use, or resources that you can go to
- [00:16:04.110]where people are pretty honest on,
- [00:16:06.697]"I did this, it worked,"
- [00:16:08.010]or you know, "This is happening, I need help."
- [00:16:11.010]That type of thing.
- [00:16:12.210]Are those free apps?
- [00:16:13.920]Most of them that I've used are, yeah.
- [00:16:16.440]Yeah, what are some of those apps?
- [00:16:17.910]Yeah, so the "Wonder Weeks" app.
- [00:16:21.513]Okay. Was pretty helpful
- [00:16:24.660]at first, just because it would explain
- [00:16:27.930]like how your child is developing.
- [00:16:30.420]And it was pretty spot on,
- [00:16:32.070]of like when you can expect certain growth spurts
- [00:16:36.060]and things like that.
- [00:16:38.580]'Cause at first you're not really sure what's going on.
- [00:16:40.977](all laughing)
- [00:16:41.810]Sometimes. There's a lot going on.
- [00:16:43.020]Yes, and so it's nice to have those resources
- [00:16:48.120]and I'm sure like somebody recommended that to me
- [00:16:50.460]at one point.
- [00:16:52.650]And then just, I can't...
- [00:16:54.870]The other one, it was a like
- [00:16:58.122]"What to expect when you're
- [00:17:00.213]expecting" app. Expecting?
- [00:17:02.340]Mm hm. And so it was people
- [00:17:03.570]that were having babies
- [00:17:07.350]at the same time and so they were going through a lot
- [00:17:09.840]of the same things that I was.
- [00:17:11.280]So I would look on there occasionally to see like
- [00:17:15.330]is this normal?
- [00:17:17.790]You know, this- Yeah. (laughing)
- [00:17:18.930]My baby has a strange rash.
- [00:17:20.790]Like what is this?
- [00:17:22.350]And things like that. Should I go to the doctor?
- [00:17:23.910]Yes, and I am extremely lucky
- [00:17:27.810]to have Brooke, who is a more experienced mom
- [00:17:31.950]and just like literally right across the yard.
- [00:17:34.950]So she helped out a ton.
- [00:17:36.690]Especially with the whole breastfeeding
- [00:17:38.924]journey. Yeah.
- [00:17:40.020]Which was- It's a lot more difficult
- [00:17:42.939]Yes. Than I think people
- [00:17:45.600]make it seem like.
- [00:17:46.433]Or like in general than people think.
- [00:17:47.950]Yeah. In general, I think
- [00:17:49.350]it's a lot more difficult.
- [00:17:50.850]Like getting the latch
- [00:17:51.810]and how much time it takes
- [00:17:53.220]and how to work and breastfeed probably,
- [00:17:56.400]are some of the things.
- [00:17:58.160]Yeah, I would agree. Yeah.
- [00:18:01.080]Feel free to add onto that.
- [00:18:02.010]'cause I haven't breastfed, but I'm just-
- [00:18:03.510]Yeah, no, that was probably one of the biggest like
- [00:18:07.770]shocks of being a first time mom,
- [00:18:09.720]is like, that is not super easy
- [00:18:12.930]and then it makes you feel bad.
- [00:18:14.250]You're like, this should be something that I can do.
- [00:18:16.380]And so that was
- [00:18:20.020]a whole journey. Yeah, I think like
- [00:18:20.853]the common misconception is
- [00:18:22.020]that it's like, oh, it's natural,
- [00:18:23.670]like it should just happen naturally.
- [00:18:25.290]It's like, no, it's a learned ability
- [00:18:27.960]that both mom and baby have to learn.
- [00:18:30.300]So- Yes.
- [00:18:31.620]Yes.
- [00:18:32.790]Did you wanna add on to that, Brooke?
- [00:18:34.920]I would definitely recommend seeing a lactation consultant
- [00:18:37.740]if you have issues breastfeeding, because like she said,
- [00:18:40.890]it definitely is a lot harder than you think it's gonna be.
- [00:18:45.300]So I definitely had a really hard time
- [00:18:46.920]with my first one and I waited a couple weeks to see someone
- [00:18:50.850]and she had already done quite a bit of damage,
- [00:18:53.100]so- Ooh.
- [00:18:54.210]Luckily she helped me get through it.
- [00:18:57.360]And then it was great after that,
- [00:19:00.690]but just like when you don't know what you're doing,
- [00:19:03.150]it's so hard.
- [00:19:05.640]And then the second kid, she did perfect.
- [00:19:08.310]So you just never know. Yeah.
- [00:19:09.900]It's kind of baby to baby
- [00:19:11.340]and being a mom trying to figure it out is hard.
- [00:19:13.860]So. Absolutely.
- [00:19:15.720]Yeah, so- Yeah, so if you're planning
- [00:19:17.190]on breastfeeding, don't wait.
- [00:19:18.660]Get advice. Yes, get advice.
- [00:19:20.100]Don't have a- Do not suffer.
- [00:19:21.450]Yes, do not suffer.
- [00:19:22.740]Don't have a bad latch.
- [00:19:23.850]Yes. Yes, no need to suffer.
- [00:19:25.950]Reach out.
- [00:19:26.970]Anything else you wanted to remark on with social media
- [00:19:29.880]and being a mom?
- [00:19:31.710]Anything you wanna tell maybe other new moms?
- [00:19:34.740]Yeah, just don't believe everything you see
- [00:19:37.620]on social media,
- [00:19:38.580]because every kid is different.
- [00:19:41.370]And you're just doing the best you can to get through,
- [00:19:44.490]I guess, sometimes.
- [00:19:46.410]Yeah, just kind of lean on your family
- [00:19:47.970]and friends mostly for support
- [00:19:50.460]and you'll get through it.
- [00:19:52.500]That's great advice.
- [00:19:54.120]That is good advice.
- [00:19:56.400]Mel, any advice for new moms
- [00:19:58.350]about social media and how to handle that?
- [00:20:01.848]I would just be careful what you're looking at.
- [00:20:06.000]And just remember
- [00:20:06.840]that it is the highlight reel usually, of people's lives.
- [00:20:10.560]And just know that you are the best mom
- [00:20:15.870]for your baby and that's what matters.
- [00:20:18.720]And you know, have your family and friends to reach out to.
- [00:20:22.890]'Cause that's where you get the most help I think,
- [00:20:25.730]in the long term.
- [00:20:27.030]So, yeah.
- [00:20:29.520]Yeah, good advice.
- [00:20:31.380]Okay, last question I have for you is,
- [00:20:33.150]what would you like the listeners to check out?
- [00:20:35.160]How can they find you if they're interested in your work
- [00:20:37.947]and what you do?
- [00:20:39.570]Well, I just mostly sit here and (indistinct)
- [00:20:42.180]so I guess if you're interested in our grain elevator
- [00:20:45.810]you can look at our website.
- [00:20:47.010]It's just 'manninggrain.com'.
- [00:20:49.428]Not really a lot going on there
- [00:20:51.120]but if you're curious about what bids we have, check it out.
- [00:20:55.020]Could also probably drive up and stop in?
- [00:20:58.155]Yeah. Because it's kind of
- [00:20:58.988]a casual- Sure can.
- [00:21:00.450]Business approach. Yep.
- [00:21:02.850]Yep, or just- No appointments necessary.
- [00:21:04.726](indistinct cross talking)
- [00:21:07.218]No, just free for all, I guess.
- [00:21:09.751]Mel, how about you?
- [00:21:10.584]Anything that you want the listeners to check out?
- [00:21:14.040]Yeah, if you guys have any interest
- [00:21:16.860]in interior design services,
- [00:21:19.200]or you just wanna get some inspiration, some design tips,
- [00:21:23.550]you can check my Instagram out
- [00:21:25.830]at 'Heartland.Reveal'.
- [00:21:28.290]Or my Facebook, 'Heartland Reveal'.
- [00:21:31.620]Yeah, and I highly recommend checking her designs out.
- [00:21:34.440]They're really lovely.
- [00:21:35.400]I love to go on her Facebook page
- [00:21:37.920]when I need some aesthetic beauty in my life,
- [00:21:40.620]so definitely recommend checking that out.
- [00:21:43.260]I wanted to thank Brooke and Mel
- [00:21:45.840]for their time today and for sitting down
- [00:21:48.060]and interviewing with me and sharing their knowledge
- [00:21:50.910]and experience about being a new mom
- [00:21:53.160]and navigating the crazy jungle of social media.
- [00:21:57.900]Thank you, thank you for having us.
- [00:21:59.460]It was fun. Yeah, you bet.
- [00:22:00.963]Yeah, thanks for having us.
- [00:22:03.120]This has been an episode
- [00:22:04.470]of "The Good Life in Early Life,"
- [00:22:06.510]a production by Nebraska Extension
- [00:22:08.550]and the Early Childhood Team.
- [00:22:10.020]If you like the show
- [00:22:11.190]make sure you subscribe and tell your friends to listen.
- [00:22:13.920]Please visit our website at 'child.unl.edu'
- [00:22:17.430]for information about early childhood development
- [00:22:19.950]and upcoming educational opportunities in your area.
- [00:22:23.340]The executive producer, sound editor
- [00:22:25.380]and host of the show is me, Emily Manning.
- [00:22:27.990]I would also like to thank our podcast team members,
- [00:22:30.480]Dr. Holly Hatton, Ingrid Lindal, Erin Campbell,
- [00:22:33.960]Linda Reddish, Kim Wellsandt and Katie Krause.
- [00:22:37.200]Additional support in peer review is done
- [00:22:39.270]by the Early Childhood Team.
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- [00:22:41.910]comes from a creative comments license
- [00:22:43.590]and can be found in our show notes.
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