Teachable Moments after a Meltdown
LaDonna Werth and Lisa Poppe - Early Childhood Extension Educators
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11/22/2022
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How to handle meltdowns!
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- [00:00:02.230]Fit and Healthy Kids - An Early Childhood Podcast (with music).
- [00:00:05.570](LaDonna Werth) Hello from the University of Nebraska-Lincoln.
- [00:00:08.750]Nebraska Extension Educators LaDonna Werth and Lisa Poppe
- [00:00:12.750]are here to talk with you about early childhood -
- [00:00:16.080]what's new and what's happening and what's for you.
- [00:00:21.024]Does this sound familiar?
- [00:00:22.915]Your children are playing in the living room
- [00:00:25.240]while you are cleaning up the kitchen.
- [00:00:27.565]You answer the phone, a few minutes later,
- [00:00:31.565]one child is angry and screaming because someone took her toys
- [00:00:37.174]and the other one is in tears, her sister hit her.
- [00:00:41.928]Lisa what do we do in moments like this.
- [00:00:45.338](Lisa Poppe) Well this sounds like a meltdown.
- [00:00:47.513]It is in escalated moments like this that parents often find
- [00:00:50.038]themselves trying to teach rules or give long explanations.
- [00:00:54.260]Unfortunately, in moments such as this,
- [00:00:56.940]your child usually is not even hearing your words let alone hearning the rule.
- [00:01:01.517]This is not a teachable moment.
- [00:01:04.388]But, there are countless teachable moments daily
- [00:01:06.658]when skills can be taught and emotions discussed,
- [00:01:09.318]such as during play time,
- [00:01:11.770]in the car, at bath time or while reading together.
- [00:01:15.121]As a parent, you can reduce challenging behaviors
- [00:01:18.141]such as hitting, biting, pushing, and whining
- [00:01:21.051]when you first concentrate on calming your child during a
- [00:01:23.911]challenging behavior incident and second wait until an appropriate
- [00:01:27.911]teachable moment to actually teach your child.
- [00:01:31.508](LaDonna Werth) Can you tell us more about what are teachable moments?
- [00:01:35.483]Well for instance, during breakfast time,
- [00:01:38.264]intentionally teach the skill of sharing by saying,
- [00:01:41.875]“Thank you for sharing the syrup with your sister!”
- [00:01:44.738]When your children are playing on the floor quietly,
- [00:01:48.097]sit on the floor with them, make eye contact and say,
- [00:01:51.268]“Wow, you girls have been playing for 10 minutes quietly!
- [00:01:54.518]Tell me about what you are building.
- [00:01:57.018]”This teaches the desired behavior of playing quietly together.
- [00:02:00.788](LaDonna Werth) What are some teachable moments throughout the day, Lisa!
- [00:02:04.230](Lisa Poppe) There are so many teachable moments.
- [00:02:06.854]Like play time for instance is a great to
- [00:02:09.154]respond to common challenging behavior.
- [00:02:11.931]“Oh, no! I see that your bunny is super sad.
- [00:02:14.231]Her sister is trying to take her toy.
- [00:02:16.141]I wonder what she can do?”
- [00:02:17.884]You can teach appropriate ways of getting her needs met.
- [00:02:21.554]She can ask for help, get a timer or trade her sister for another toy.
- [00:02:26.020]Bath time can be a teachable time too. “The water stays in the tub.
- [00:02:30.696]You can use the cup and pour water into
- [00:02:32.946]another cup or you can pour water on your body.”
- [00:02:36.242]Teaching friendship skills during car time “I saw that your friend,
- [00:02:40.242]Bella was sad at school today and you made her a picture.
- [00:02:44.242]I bet that really made her feel better.
- [00:02:46.972]What a great friend you are!”
- [00:02:48.352]Also using books during story time can teach emotions.
- [00:02:52.242]“Wow, that little girl in this book is really angry!
- [00:02:56.005]I saw that she asked her mom for a hug.
- [00:02:58.392]That is a great way to feel better.
- [00:03:00.139]I wonder what you can do when you feel angry?”
- [00:03:03.653]And also use meal time to teach expectations.
- [00:03:07.704]Say “Let’s practice asking for more milk.”
- [00:03:10.100]Role play with whining, yelling or just banging your cup
- [00:03:14.100]and then teach the expected behavior.
- [00:03:16.900]“You can ask nicely, say, “Mommy, milk please.”
- [00:03:19.620]When she does this, jump up and say, “I’m happy to get you milk!”
- [00:03:24.303]These are just a few examples that can happen everyday.
- [00:03:28.375](LaDonna Werth) Great advice Lisa.
- [00:03:30.695]As parents of young children, we can help them learn.
- [00:03:34.695]We are always teaching child.
- [00:03:36.685]Strolling in the park, reading books, and
- [00:03:39.445]giving her a kiss before bed all teachs her about her world.
- [00:03:44.805]We can use the many calm and happy moments in our day
- [00:03:48.655]to intentionally teach expectations,
- [00:03:52.091]rules and skills that will help our children
- [00:03:55.516]to be successful and reduce challenging behavior.
- [00:03:59.516]This has been LaDonna and Lisa with the University of Nebraska-Lincoln.
- [00:04:03.654]Until next time, enjoy your family time together.
- [00:04:07.429]Fit and Healthy Kids is a co-production of
- [00:04:09.975]Nebraska Extension, Georgia Extension,
- [00:04:12.404]Kansas State Extension, South Dakota State Extension,
- [00:04:15.704]and the Iowa Childcare Resource and Referral.
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