Ally 101
LGBTQA+ Center
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This is a shortened version of the Ally Development Workshop. Learn how to show an active commitment to diversity and inclusion, have mutual respect for people of all sexual orientations, gender identities and expressions, and be an ally to the LGBTQA+ community.
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- [00:00:01.020]Howdy folks.
- [00:00:02.250]Welcome to the Ally Development training presented
- [00:00:04.470]by the LGBTQA+ Resource Center.
- [00:00:08.550]The University of Nebraska is a land grant institution
- [00:00:12.120]with campuses and programs on the past, present,
- [00:00:15.150]and future homelands of the following peoples.
- [00:00:18.390]As a land grant institution, we strive to connect the land
- [00:00:22.050]with knowledge and access.
- [00:00:24.240]Truth and the acknowledgement of truth are critical
- [00:00:27.450]to building mutual respect and connection
- [00:00:30.000]across all barriers of heritage and difference.
- [00:00:33.360]We begin this effort to acknowledge what has been buried
- [00:00:36.270]by honoring the truth.
- [00:00:38.010]We are standing on the ancestral lands
- [00:00:40.320]of the first peoples who occupied
- [00:00:42.150]this area we now call Nebraska.
- [00:00:44.880]We pay respects to native elders past and present.
- [00:00:48.810]With this acknowledgement, we affirm Indigenous Sovereignty
- [00:00:52.470]and will work to hold our community and institution
- [00:00:55.170]more accountable to the needs of Indigenous People.
- [00:00:58.620]Please take a moment to consider the many legacies
- [00:01:01.200]of violence, displacement, migration
- [00:01:04.020]and settlement that bring us together here today.
- [00:01:08.370]This presentation is a great introduction
- [00:01:10.620]for those wanting to know more
- [00:01:11.910]about being allied with the LGBTQA+ community.
- [00:01:15.720]We'll learn about the LGBTQA+ Resource Center
- [00:01:19.256]and learn how to show acts of commitment to diversity
- [00:01:21.810]and inclusion, as well as having mutual respect for people
- [00:01:25.410]of all sexual orientations, identities, and expressions,
- [00:01:29.430]and how to be an active bystander
- [00:01:31.440]and be allied with the community.
- [00:01:33.780]Remember, this is an introductory educational resource
- [00:01:37.020]and learning is an ongoing experience.
- [00:01:39.480]It's okay to acknowledge
- [00:01:40.590]that you might not know some things,
- [00:01:41.940]even after listening to this presentation.
- [00:01:44.670]Finally, a few notes for our listeners,
- [00:01:47.340]try your best to be fully present
- [00:01:48.930]and participate at your own comfort level.
- [00:01:51.600]That being said, we do also encourage you to push yourself
- [00:01:54.810]outside your comfort zone.
- [00:01:57.270]Be sure to let others fully participate as well.
- [00:02:00.180]Be respectful of, and listen to others' beliefs, values,
- [00:02:03.360]and experiences.
- [00:02:05.730]The LGBTQA+ Resource Center offers members
- [00:02:08.910]of the Lincoln and University of Nebraska community
- [00:02:11.850]resources, education, programming and events,
- [00:02:15.750]as well as providing a safe space
- [00:02:17.760]for members of the community.
- [00:02:20.010]The center hosts presentations and workshops,
- [00:02:22.470]like this one, for campus and community members.
- [00:02:25.740]It also provides free
- [00:02:26.910]and discrete access to identity affirming clothing
- [00:02:29.730]and accessories through the Lavender Closet
- [00:02:32.460]and has more than 1500 books, DVDs, reference materials,
- [00:02:36.450]and educational resources within their library.
- [00:02:40.110]The center also coordinates a living
- [00:02:41.790]and learning community called Prism on the UNL campus.
- [00:02:45.570]The center also provides advocacies and support
- [00:02:48.780]for members of the community and others.
- [00:02:52.560]The center host a variety
- [00:02:53.970]of annual events like Drag shows,
- [00:02:55.854]the LGBTQA+ History Month dinner, and lavender graduation
- [00:03:00.537]for members of the community who are graduating
- [00:03:03.000]from UNL.
- [00:03:04.770]Let's learn the difference between ally and being allied.
- [00:03:08.520]An ally is someone who acts for the benefit of a community
- [00:03:12.600]and strives to promote education and inclusion,
- [00:03:15.825]but being allied is a commitment to certain behaviors,
- [00:03:19.920]and that's what we're here to learn.
- [00:03:23.190]Let's start by unpacking some terminology.
- [00:03:26.880]The LGBTQA+ acronym is what we typically see
- [00:03:29.940]and use to identify the community, especially here at UNL.
- [00:03:34.380]Starting from the top, L stands for lesbian.
- [00:03:37.410]Lesbian typically means a woman who's attracted
- [00:03:40.260]to other women.
- [00:03:42.540]The G stands for gay,
- [00:03:44.010]and that typically means a man who is attracted
- [00:03:46.080]to other men; however, you might see it used as sort
- [00:03:49.200]of an umbrella term to encompass the entire community
- [00:03:51.750]as well.
- [00:03:52.800]Some people would rather just say gay
- [00:03:54.750]than say those specific identities.
- [00:03:57.360]B stands for Bi with Pansexuality included as well.
- [00:04:01.440]These terms can be used interchangeably,
- [00:04:03.630]but also exclusively, depending on the individual.
- [00:04:06.750]Both typically mean they're attracted
- [00:04:08.730]to two or more genders.
- [00:04:10.890]T stands for trans or transgender.
- [00:04:13.890]Trans folks identify as a different gender
- [00:04:16.290]than the one associated with the sex they were assigned
- [00:04:19.050]at birth.
- [00:04:20.130]Transgender is an umbrella term as well
- [00:04:22.410]and it can make up gender queer, non-binary,
- [00:04:25.020]and other gender diverse identities.
- [00:04:29.010]The Q stands for queer, which is another umbrella term
- [00:04:31.787]and is used in a similar way as gay to express an identity
- [00:04:35.280]within the community.
- [00:04:36.930]Queer has a history of being used as a slur
- [00:04:39.420]against the community, but has been reclaimed,
- [00:04:42.090]and is used as an umbrella term.
- [00:04:44.190]The Q can also include questioning, which includes folks
- [00:04:47.460]who are unsure about their identities
- [00:04:49.590]or with their inclusion in the community.
- [00:04:53.370]A stands for Asexual and Aromantic.
- [00:04:56.520]Asexual and Aromantic identity means a lack
- [00:04:59.160]of sexual and romantic attraction.
- [00:05:02.310]Ally is also included within the A.
- [00:05:05.620]An Ally is someone who supports the LGBTQA+ community
- [00:05:09.180]in activism and in their actions.
- [00:05:11.820]Finally, we use the + sign
- [00:05:13.290]to signify other diverse sexual orientations
- [00:05:16.350]and gender identities that aren't included in the acronym.
- [00:05:19.680]A few examples of the plus would be Demisexual,
- [00:05:23.400]which is little or no capacity
- [00:05:24.930]to experience sexual attraction
- [00:05:27.030]until a strong romantic connection is formed
- [00:05:29.250]with someone, Gender Queer, which describes folks
- [00:05:32.700]who don't identify within conventional gender distinctions,
- [00:05:36.420]but identities with no gender, multiple genders,
- [00:05:39.690]or some combinations of genders.
- [00:05:42.270]Another example might be non-binary, which describes someone
- [00:05:45.450]who rejects the gender binary and adopts gender
- [00:05:47.850]as being a continuum.
- [00:05:50.850]One way to be allied with the LGBTQA+ community is to
- [00:05:54.570]use inclusive language.
- [00:05:56.460]In the left hand column are terms that are outdated
- [00:05:59.220]or have a better alternative.
- [00:06:01.380]In the right hand column are up to date versions
- [00:06:04.980]or a better alternative to those in the left.
- [00:06:09.090]Instead of saying someone is a boyfriend, girlfriend,
- [00:06:12.240]or friend, just say that they're their partner or spouse.
- [00:06:17.250]Instead of saying someone is a homosexual male
- [00:06:20.130]or a homosexual female, say gay or lesbian.
- [00:06:24.810]Instead of saying sexual preference, say sexual orientation.
- [00:06:30.180]Instead of saying preferred pronouns, say chosen pronouns.
- [00:06:35.610]Instead of saying someone is transgendered, they're trans
- [00:06:40.140]or transgender.
- [00:06:43.650]Ladies and gentlemen,
- [00:06:44.670]or boys and girls can easily become people
- [00:06:47.700]of all genders or y'all.
- [00:06:51.780]Instead of saying, "Man the booth".
- [00:06:54.150]you could also say just, "Staff the booth".
- [00:06:57.000]And instead of saying, "Hey guys",
- [00:06:59.160]we could say, "Hey everyone".
- [00:07:03.360]Another way to be allied with the community is
- [00:07:05.850]to stop the usage of outdated terms to describe
- [00:07:08.520]or label people.
- [00:07:09.990]We have moved away from those
- [00:07:11.340]as a community and expect you to do the same.
- [00:07:14.460]Don't use words like transsexual or homosexual;
- [00:07:17.880]use transgender and gay.
- [00:07:20.190]Don't use trans or gay as adjectives either.
- [00:07:23.220]They're legitimate identities that are not to be used
- [00:07:25.740]as a joke or an insult.
- [00:07:27.960]Passing refers to whether someone is perceived
- [00:07:30.600]as female, male, or another gender.
- [00:07:33.750]Everyone passes regardless of whether the person identifies
- [00:07:37.140]as trans or not trans.
- [00:07:39.990]Many transgender people strongly oppose the presumption
- [00:07:43.350]that all trans people want to pass as either male or female
- [00:07:46.860]thus, we reject passing as a requirement to be trans.
- [00:07:52.230]Using the word queer is a bit complicated,
- [00:07:54.600]as its historical use
- [00:07:55.740]as a slur has assigned it a negative connotation
- [00:07:58.710]for some members of the community.
- [00:08:02.009]For others, queer has been reclaimed and is utilized
- [00:08:04.200]as an identity,
- [00:08:05.280]but also as an umbrella term for the community.
- [00:08:08.520]A good rule of thumb as that, if you aren't a member
- [00:08:10.860]of the community,
- [00:08:11.910]you shouldn't be using the word at all.
- [00:08:14.310]Certain words and phrases are used within the community
- [00:08:17.340]and in certain circles.
- [00:08:19.230]In these cases, members of the community have reclaimed them
- [00:08:22.830]and their choice to do so should be respected.
- [00:08:25.830]I recommend having conversations with folks
- [00:08:28.080]in your circle who might identify
- [00:08:29.970]within the community and listen to their perspectives.
- [00:08:33.478]Let's talk about labels.
- [00:08:35.926]Labels can be a liberating way to express oneself
- [00:08:40.140]and find others who relate to their experiences.
- [00:08:44.850]When someone tells you they identify a certain way
- [00:08:47.280]or with a certain label, don't question it
- [00:08:49.710]and pay attention.
- [00:08:52.440]Accept it and try to validate them.
- [00:08:54.960]Validating might mean expressly using the correct pronouns
- [00:08:58.290]or new names.
- [00:08:59.820]Purposely keeping in mind others' identities is important
- [00:09:03.180]if it's important to them.
- [00:09:06.300]It's important to note that labels can intersect
- [00:09:08.910]and interact, and it's okay not to have a label.
- [00:09:15.180]It may be hard to change old habits,
- [00:09:17.580]but it's even more challenging
- [00:09:18.900]for folks to be their authentic selves
- [00:09:20.820]with those around them.
- [00:09:22.380]Try your best, own your mistakes,
- [00:09:24.720]and get comfortable being corrected.
- [00:09:30.120]The gender unicorn is a visual representation
- [00:09:32.490]of the spectrums of gender identity, gender expression,
- [00:09:35.220]physical attraction, and emotional attraction.
- [00:09:38.460]This is a great way to be able to think
- [00:09:39.960]about these things in a way that's not binary.
- [00:09:43.230]This is an exercise to help us think
- [00:09:45.600]beyond the binary.
- [00:09:47.880]Gender expression is represented
- [00:09:49.590]by a thought bubble denoting that identity is about
- [00:09:51.930]how we think about ourselves, or our self perception.
- [00:09:55.500]Gender expression is represented
- [00:09:57.090]by the dots in circling the unicorns figure,
- [00:09:59.820]denoting the expression is about how we show our identity
- [00:10:02.910]or don't to others, or how others perceive us.
- [00:10:07.050]Sex assigned at birth is not as much
- [00:10:09.090]of a spectrum as it is a categorical identity.
- [00:10:12.270]While biological sex includes a myriad of possibilities,
- [00:10:15.780]sex assigned at birth in the U.S. has been relegated
- [00:10:18.420]to a binary system.
- [00:10:20.490]Intersex is a general term used for a variety
- [00:10:23.070]of conditions in which a person is born with a reproductive
- [00:10:26.850]or sexual anatomy that doesn't meet the typical definitions
- [00:10:30.900]of female or male.
- [00:10:33.000]A person may also be born with mosaic genetics,
- [00:10:35.910]so some of their cells have XX chromosomes
- [00:10:38.970]and some have XY.
- [00:10:40.770]Intersex anatomy doesn't always show up at birth.
- [00:10:43.380]Sometimes a person isn't found to have intersex anatomy
- [00:10:46.500]until they reach the age
- [00:10:47.400]of puberty or find themselves infertile as adults.
- [00:10:51.210]Some people live and die
- [00:10:52.380]with intersex anatomy without anyone,
- [00:10:54.420]including themselves, ever knowing.
- [00:10:56.970]Sex assigned at birth is represented by the DNA strand
- [00:10:59.730]because this assignment is largely based
- [00:11:01.950]on the presence of certain set of genitals at birth.
- [00:11:05.670]Physical and emotional attraction is represented
- [00:11:07.920]by the unicorn's hearts,
- [00:11:09.630]denoting that these are internal, innate feelings
- [00:11:11.910]that are just part of who we are.
- [00:11:14.130]As shown, these things fall on spectrums,
- [00:11:16.650]meaning that we can have varying shades
- [00:11:18.240]of identities and preferences.
- [00:11:21.060]All right, time for a quick activity.
- [00:11:24.060]Go back one slide to the gender unicorn.
- [00:11:27.390]Utilize the terminology on the slide
- [00:11:29.610]or those that you want to use.
- [00:11:32.040]This can be done individually in just a few minutes,
- [00:11:34.830]and then I have a few questions
- [00:11:36.360]for you to reflect on.
- [00:11:39.660]What made this activity easy,
- [00:11:41.370]or maybe challenging for you?
- [00:11:44.070]In what ways does your identify map differ
- [00:11:46.920]or relate to who you think or know others' identify you as?
- [00:11:52.980]Take a few minutes to think about this.
- [00:11:55.020]Journal or talk amongst yourselves.
- [00:12:00.150]Another way to be allied
- [00:12:01.380]with the community is to challenge harmful ideas.
- [00:12:04.980]These are some harmful ideas that were frequently heard
- [00:12:07.560]or spread within our society,
- [00:12:09.720]and we should challenge these whenever possible.
- [00:12:14.430]LGBTQA+ people do not choose their sexual orientation.
- [00:12:19.950]Transgender people are not confused.
- [00:12:23.100]AIDS is not just a gay man's disease.
- [00:12:27.780]Lesbians are lesbians, whether they have had
- [00:12:31.380]or been in a relationship with men or not.
- [00:12:37.620]Nobody needs to be the man or the woman in a relationship.
- [00:12:42.240]People who identify as bisexual
- [00:12:44.310]or pansexual are not just promiscuous.
- [00:12:49.170]Asexual people are not just those
- [00:12:51.270]that haven't found the right person yet.
- [00:12:53.280]Their identity is valid.
- [00:12:56.070]Trans women are not men in dresses.
- [00:12:58.710]Trans women are women
- [00:13:00.960]and they absolutely should have bathroom access.
- [00:13:05.160]LGBTQA+ men should be able to join
- [00:13:08.910]and lead a Boy Scout troop if they so choose.
- [00:13:14.070]Religion is absolutely not a valid reason to discriminate.
- [00:13:18.768]There are no valid reasons to discriminate.
- [00:13:22.050]People within the community can be religious.
- [00:13:26.460]Trans folks don't need to get surgery or take hormones
- [00:13:29.490]to be accepted, and it's absolutely not their fault
- [00:13:32.910]if they can't or don't have the opportunities
- [00:13:35.340]to do those things.
- [00:13:38.400]You don't have to be male or female
- [00:13:40.980]and chromosomes do not define gender.
- [00:13:45.900]Gay, bi, and queer men should be allowed
- [00:13:48.690]to give blood regardless of the last time they had sex.
- [00:13:52.740]Did you know that blood is actually tested regardless
- [00:13:55.890]of who it comes from before it goes to anyone else?
- [00:14:00.960]The LGBTQA+ community is vast and expansive.
- [00:14:05.550]You're not gonna know everyone who's a member.
- [00:14:09.780]Let's discuss some issues that affect the community.
- [00:14:12.840]LGBTQA+ folks often face challenges when accessing housing
- [00:14:17.970]and public accommodations.
- [00:14:19.890]Pretty much anywhere you receive services is a place
- [00:14:22.890]where discrimination can and does occur.
- [00:14:25.860]Gender inclusive restrooms
- [00:14:27.360]and changing facilities are also hard to come by
- [00:14:30.510]or are few and far between.
- [00:14:33.210]Certain forms and documents may require identity based
- [00:14:36.630]questions be answered, and may also not include non-binary
- [00:14:40.590]and trans options.
- [00:14:42.600]Non-discrimination policies may not include
- [00:14:44.940]the LGBTQA+ community, or if it does. may not be effective
- [00:14:49.530]in eliminating discrimination and aggression.
- [00:14:52.890]When folks have changed their birth name
- [00:14:54.690]to their chosen name,
- [00:14:56.130]many times there are hoops to jump through
- [00:14:58.410]or a complete inability to make the switch.
- [00:15:01.110]This devalues their identity and discredits them
- [00:15:04.200]having the agency to change their name.
- [00:15:07.110]Gendered language is ingrained
- [00:15:08.760]into society and folks in the community,
- [00:15:11.310]especially those who've chosen to be identified
- [00:15:14.220]with non-gendered pronouns, face a daily struggle
- [00:15:17.400]to be correctly identified.
- [00:15:20.670]Some other issues that the community faces is
- [00:15:23.160]minority stress, which is where you might be one
- [00:15:26.760]or one of only a few members
- [00:15:28.620]of the community within a certain space.
- [00:15:35.070]Anti-LGBTQA+ legislation affects the entire community.
- [00:15:40.650]Remember marriage equality has only been legal since 2015
- [00:15:46.080]and in the last year have tried to ban
- [00:15:51.300]or successfully banned high school youth from participating
- [00:15:54.720]in sports based on their trans identity
- [00:15:57.540]and banned or barred them
- [00:15:58.890]from receiving gender affirming healthcare.
- [00:16:02.400]Another issue that members
- [00:16:03.750]of the community face is the coming out process,
- [00:16:06.840]which could include people
- [00:16:08.280]like family and friends, work and colleagues,
- [00:16:11.610]school or organizations and faith groups.
- [00:16:15.690]Coming out is hard,
- [00:16:17.310]and it's even more difficult when you have
- [00:16:18.960]to do it in multiple situations,
- [00:16:21.270]it's multiple people, or in multiple spaces.
- [00:16:25.230]Remember to thank the person
- [00:16:27.150]for trusting you with the information and be supportive.
- [00:16:32.070]Let's talk about what to do
- [00:16:33.150]when someone comes out.
- [00:16:35.250]First, listen and thank them for trusting you.
- [00:16:38.760]Be an active listener.
- [00:16:40.200]These conversations are often difficult
- [00:16:42.090]for the person without added commentary.
- [00:16:45.150]Don't try to rush them and guess
- [00:16:47.160]at what they're trying to say, or insert your own ideas.
- [00:16:50.700]Thank them for entrusting you
- [00:16:51.900]with the information and let them lead the conversation.
- [00:16:55.920]It's not about you.
- [00:16:57.810]Don't say things like, "I knew it"
- [00:16:59.820]or, "I've been waiting for you to come out."
- [00:17:02.490]This entire conversation should center the individual.
- [00:17:07.830]Ask them, "How do you wanna be referred?"
- [00:17:10.470]Ask them their pronouns.
- [00:17:12.000]Ask them how they want to be identified
- [00:17:14.160]or what identities they want others to denote when speaking
- [00:17:17.040]to or about them.
- [00:17:20.610]Ask if they're comfortable with correction.
- [00:17:24.090]See if they're comfortable correcting others
- [00:17:26.040]when their identity pronouns
- [00:17:27.750]or other things are said incorrectly
- [00:17:30.330]and/or if they're comfortable allowing others to correct
- [00:17:33.150]as needed, even in spaces that person isn't in.
- [00:17:38.340]And don't out them.
- [00:17:40.080]The last thing you should do is tell others
- [00:17:41.790]about the individual's identity
- [00:17:43.500]without their explicit permission.
- [00:17:45.660]It's always best to let the person come
- [00:17:47.370]out on their own time.
- [00:17:50.250]Here are some active ways to be supportive.
- [00:17:53.070]Start by speaking up.
- [00:17:54.690]It's crucial to speak out whenever you are hearing, seeing
- [00:17:58.500]or experiencing something anti-LGBTQA+.
- [00:18:03.270]Get educated, attend workshops, presentations,
- [00:18:06.000]and conferences much like you're doing right now,
- [00:18:09.330]and advocate, write letters, call legislators,
- [00:18:12.930]testify and advocate for LGBTQA+ inclusion in everything.
- [00:18:20.250]Here are some other ways to be supportive.
- [00:18:22.770]Start by self educating.
- [00:18:24.720]Examples might include reading books
- [00:18:26.640]about or queer or LGBTQA+ topics,
- [00:18:30.240]especially by queer authors or members of the community.
- [00:18:33.600]Reading about the history, marginalization and illegality
- [00:18:37.590]of queerness, practice using different pronouns,
- [00:18:41.610]or just using they, them, theirs for most folks.
- [00:18:45.750]Listen to people within the community.
- [00:18:48.120]People within the community know what they need
- [00:18:50.880]and are able to express those things best.
- [00:18:53.430]Make sure you are always advocating
- [00:18:55.530]for and amplifying their voices.
- [00:19:02.370]Donate to LGBTQA+ charities and organizations,
- [00:19:07.050]whether that is monetary, with your time, or energy.
- [00:19:11.760]Attend LGBTQA+ programming, whether that's educational,
- [00:19:15.900]a workshop, or something that's being sponsored
- [00:19:18.750]or presented by an organization.
- [00:19:22.560]Another way is showing visible signs of inclusion.
- [00:19:25.890]Who are you inviting to the table?
- [00:19:28.170]What identities and folks are represented
- [00:19:30.360]in different spaces?
- [00:19:33.540]And lastly, report signs of bias.
- [00:19:36.570]When you see something, say something.
- [00:19:39.870]So, what's a bystander?
- [00:19:42.870]A bystander is someone who observes a problem,
- [00:19:45.720]a problematic behavior, or a dangerous situation,
- [00:19:49.080]and has the opportunity to intervene.
- [00:19:53.700]If you find yourself being a bystander,
- [00:19:55.890]you have a few options on what to do.
- [00:19:58.620]The first option is to be direct.
- [00:20:00.720]Do something yourself.
- [00:20:02.460]Ask someone to stop what they're doing
- [00:20:04.530]or check on someone you might be worried about.
- [00:20:07.320]The next thing you could do is distract.
- [00:20:09.780]Think of a distraction that will diffuse the situation
- [00:20:12.900]or calm things down.
- [00:20:14.550]A distraction might be accidentally spilling a drink,
- [00:20:18.090]asking to borrow someone's phone,
- [00:20:20.910]or asking for a ride,
- [00:20:22.560]or just starting an unrelated conversation.
- [00:20:26.220]Another option you have is to delegate.
- [00:20:29.010]Go ask someone to get involved, ask friends for help,
- [00:20:32.880]talk to a trusted person like an RA, coach, faculty person,
- [00:20:37.380]staff member, or a trusted peer.
- [00:20:40.470]For example, tell the bartender
- [00:20:42.900]or ask a family friend to check
- [00:20:44.340]in on someone when they leave.
- [00:20:46.770]Leave an anonymous note for a team captain or advisor.
- [00:20:51.090]Another option you have is to delay.
- [00:20:54.450]If an incident is over, check in with the person.
- [00:20:57.930]You could also say, "Could I sit with you?
- [00:21:00.900]Can I accompany you somewhere?
- [00:21:03.360]What can I do for you?
- [00:21:04.290]What do you need?"
- [00:21:07.860]It might be helpful to document the situation
- [00:21:10.972]or incident.
- [00:21:12.810]Laws about recording in public vary,
- [00:21:15.090]so make sure you know what's going on first.
- [00:21:17.850]It could be helpful to have a video, picture,
- [00:21:20.430]or even a sound recording of discriminatory incidents.
- [00:21:24.330]It may also be important
- [00:21:25.470]to document incidents with campus offices,
- [00:21:28.020]such as the police, Title IX, or UNL reports with ODI.
- [00:21:34.170]So, where do we go from here?
- [00:21:36.810]Remember there's many ways one can be an ally
- [00:21:40.470]and they can start by having conversation
- [00:21:42.420]with folks in and around the community.
- [00:21:44.880]Listening to their experiences, perspectives,
- [00:21:47.160]and taking into consideration their needs.
- [00:21:50.430]People in the LGBTQA+ community know it best
- [00:21:53.160]and know what they need,
- [00:21:54.300]and it's important to listen to those in the community
- [00:21:57.030]when they ask you to be an ally
- [00:21:58.410]and support them and amplify their voice.
- [00:22:01.410]Make sure to share information you've received
- [00:22:03.570]whether that's from someone
- [00:22:04.710]within the community or from doing your own research.
- [00:22:08.010]Sharing is caring.
- [00:22:10.110]Information worth sharing can take many forms,
- [00:22:12.780]but it could be sharing stories of folks in the community,
- [00:22:16.440]letting people know if certain spaces are unsafe,
- [00:22:19.680]or sounding the alarm when anti-LGBTQA+ policies
- [00:22:24.210]or legislation are being debated and enacted.
- [00:22:27.570]The best way to become a better ally
- [00:22:29.370]is to integrate things into your daily life.
- [00:22:32.220]For example, try using gender neutral pronouns
- [00:22:34.830]for an entire day in every situation
- [00:22:37.530]like in emails, when addressing colleagues, et cetera.
- [00:22:41.273]Make note of when it's more difficult
- [00:22:43.800]and practice in those situations.
- [00:22:46.410]Be aware of your surroundings and be cognizant
- [00:22:48.810]of who's in the room and where they're at,
- [00:22:51.030]figuratively speaking.
- [00:22:53.130]Are you being intentionally inclusive?
- [00:22:55.500]Are you inviting folks to have a seat at the table?
- [00:22:58.590]And lastly, when you see something,
- [00:23:00.780]say something, and take action.
- [00:23:04.270]By completing one of the qualifying trainings,
- [00:23:07.140]this is being one of those trainings,
- [00:23:09.210]you may contact the LGBTQA+ Resource Center
- [00:23:12.210]to have your Ally badge mailed to you,
- [00:23:14.400]So you can display your allyship support and advocacy
- [00:23:17.843]to others.
- [00:23:19.470]Wanna chat?
- [00:23:20.400]Here's how to contact us.
- [00:23:22.170]Remember learning is a process and it doesn't stop here.
- [00:23:26.010]Continue seeking out resources
- [00:23:27.810]and education to become the best ally possible.
- [00:23:31.410]Thanks for your participation today.
- [00:23:33.450]See you next time.
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